When you're a parent, keeping yourself safe isn't just about you. There are little people at home relying on you too. That's why I've always taken a few sensible steps when meeting someone new. None of them are complicated, and all of them helped me feel more relaxed.
Take your time chatting first
There's no rush to meet. Chatting for a while helps you get a feel for someone and spot anything that doesn't add up. A quick phone or video call before a first date is a great way to check they are who they say they are.
Keep the conversation on the site
Stay on Mums Date Dads until you're comfortable. If someone pushes you to move to another app or share your number straight away, treat it as a red flag. Genuine people are happy to go at your pace.
Protect your personal details
- Don't share your home address, workplace or surname early on.
- Keep your children's names, schools and routines private.
- Be careful with photos that show your house, your car or your kids' school uniform.
Never send money
However genuine a story sounds, never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met. It's one of the most common signs of a scam. If anyone asks, report them.
Plan a safe first meeting
- Meet in a busy public place, like a café or a high street.
- Get yourself there and back, so you're never relying on your date for a lift.
- Tell a friend where you're going and who you're meeting, and check in with them afterwards.
- Keep your phone charged and your drink with you.
Trust your gut
If something feels off, it probably is. You're allowed to leave early, stop replying or say no, without explaining yourself. Politeness never comes before your safety.
Use the tools that are there for you
Mums Date Dads uses AI alongside real human moderators to screen content and spot trouble early, and every member can verify their ID for free. If you see anything that worries you, use the report and block tools. You can read more on our safety page.
Enjoy it
These habits quickly become second nature. Once they are, you can stop worrying and get on with the fun part...meeting someone who might just make you smile.
